Colossians 3:21-22
Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to win their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord.
This passage reminds all parents that when we disciplining the children, we must exercise sound and consistent principles, otherwise the children won't know what to expect and how to act. There are two negative sentiments here: bitterness and discouragement. These two sentiments accurately depict the discontent inside many children, and they are caused by parents who discipline their children without consistent principles. So what are some basic principles for disciplining children?
First, pay attention to the children. Simply put, spend time with them. Sometimes we think we're spending time with our kids, but we're not really paying attention to them. We might be watching TV or staring at the computer while we're with them. We are indirectly sending a message to them: I'd rather to doing other things than playing with you! Children also perceive love through action. A big hug works better than saying I love you, and playing sports together is better than giving a gift. Don't ever neglect setting time aside to spend with your kids, because if you don't spend the time while they are young, it would be too late when you must discipline them.
Second, consistent standards must be exercised while disciplining children. Disciplining needs to be timely, as children need to be corrected as soon as they do something wrong. If you do it the next day, they won't even remember what happened, and it would only cause anger and bitterness. Disciplining should also be effective; any punishment must feel like a punishment, gently touching their palms won't result in any change. Parents must search for the punishment that is suitable for each child - Some children need to be timed out, and others need to have their privileges taken away. Also, the parents need to consistent; if each parent has his or her own standard, children will never know what to expect.
Third, bring children before God. This is not just bringing them to Sunday school, but to bring the hearts of the children before God everyday through your words, action and teaching. The Bible says that we ought to "traina child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it." Parents, are you willing to teach your children this way?
Pray with Pastor Tong
Lord Jesus, I thank you because children are properties that you granted us. I pray for all the parents that you would hear our prayer from your throne whenever we worry about our children and cry out to you. Especially in this age of disobedience, please give the children soft and teachable hearts, and give us wisdom to know now to teach them. I thank you and I pray in the victorious name of Jesus, amen!
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